A guy meets a new woman. Follows DYD and other things he has so dearly learned and is able to attract that woman. He acts cocky/challenging, funny, daring, adventurous, and dominant and displays all the other qualities he needs to attract a woman. Eventually, he is successful. The woman is all over him. They exchange numbers and start talking.
The heat of the excitement is always high in the first few days. Since he has started with large attraction, he makes some initial mistakes which are ignored by the unconscious mind of the woman. Very soon the mistakes become clear as the excitement comes down – the guy has turned into a pussy. He has forgotten what attracted the woman at the first place and has turned into a marriage material, a nice, sober guy who works hard day and night to feed his family, gives a lot of compliments to his woman and generally do things which pleases his woman.
Very soon the woman takes control of everything. She begins to loath the kind of guy he has become. This is exactly what she doesn’t want and walks all over him.
This is a classic mistake most men make. And I just made it too (and I’m glad to learn this). I knew this happens, but now I have experienced it practically. There are things we can only learn after we have gone through them. Small things matter. What a great skill this is: Attracting a woman and keeping her attracted.
I wasn’t quite able to understand what had happened for a long time. But now I know – I failed to keep things interesting, to keep her on her toes and brimming with excitement and adventure. I told her that I longed for sex with her, and that she was a worthy woman for me to spend my life with. Result: She gets disinterested as she has gotten what she wants. She has just made another conquest. She begins to act indifferent and everything comes to a halt. One of the reasons that contribute into this is that she has seen me as a long term material and has held back sex and attention.
Very bad.
Lesson
Keep doing ALWAYS what attracted the woman at the first place. Do not turn into a pussy.
Be Different. Never be like other average guys.
Be a mystery, a source of excitement for her. Let your cards, your qualities open up one by one. Let her discover the depth in you – don’t brag.
Act disinterested in sex and her in general. You can live your life without her easily. But take her to bed as soon as possible – you are giving her a gift. Show your love skills. This is the secret of keeping a woman forever interested.
Live an interesting life – full of great things that you like to do. Develop great hobbies if you don’t have any. A woman must be an addition to your life and your presence MUST ENHANCE HER LIFE. If she leaves for any reason, she loses. Living with the belief that you are the best possible choice for your woman is the key secret of all success. Let your thoughts, all actions and your behaviour display this attitude.
Do not get into a relationship before at least dating the woman for 5-6 months. When first meeting a woman, DON’T EVEN THINK of any possibility of a ‘long term relationship’. Continue this attitude until she has proven herself to be a really worthy woman. During this time, you can also let your woman know that you are also dating other women, if you are (and which is always recommended).
ANOTHER LESSON
It’s hard to tell how frustrating it is when the woman is taking control and you don’t know what to do. It increases attraction. Now I understand how women feel when they feel they’re not in control. In their efforts to take control again and again, and consistently failing at it (by virtue of the ninja skills of a PUA), their attraction continues to increase forever.
No matter what, keep things on your terms, always. Even if you do something sweet for your woman, do it on your terms.
Whoa! Let’s move on to my journey again.
