It’s almost amazing how human mind works.
The woman who recently came into my life doesn’t have a father. All the time that I have been talking to her about her interests, passions and the things she’s inclined towards shows something intriguing. Her mind is consistently trying to fulfil the need of having a father – a security – a feeling of having someone who really cares and loves her, in her life.
Nishabd, the movie, she said, had a powerful impact on her. At first I couldn’t understand why. What is it that intrigues her so much that she can’t resist? It is a story of a 60 year old man and an 18 year old teenager, both falling in love with each other.
“I see you as a father, husband…(and a few other nasty things)…I feel secure by having you in my life”, things like that she said to me. Security and love, she badly needs in her life.
Sometimes I am amazed at core absence of real love in all these relationships. If human mind is always busy focussing on things which it lacks, where and when will the real love emerge? Clearly this is NOT love.
Mr. J, the man through whom we had met, is such a figure for her too. She loves him too...she confessed. But she retreats, “He’s like my father”. Do I need to say anything else? He happens to be her favourite topic…
This also shows one very important thing. Women are attracted to their fathers at a deep unconscious level.
I consider this a new learning in the realm of human psychology.
This is how people get seduced. In trying to achieve unconsciously what they lack in their lives, they are seduced by everyone – advertisements, sales people, seducers….the list is endless. We are dying to be seduced, to be led away into an unknown direction where we can depend on someone else without using our own minds. Mind is lazy…and one who can control it can become a powerful seducer.
Great and successful people are also great seducers.
Thank God I am learning this wonderful art.
Magnet
